Breaking Up With A Co Worker?
Just like that poplar old school tune says, breaking up is hard
to do. In the wake of a break up is a trail of broken dreams,
shattered promises, malfunctioning hearts and dysfunctional
personalities. Each break up is difficult and in the interim of
the happy relationship, it’s pretty much difficult to pin down
how not to have a bad break up and make the relationship work
and stand the test of time. Despite this, dating a co worker
may not be the best idea known to man.
Especially if you’re in the same department or need to work
closely together, dating and having a relationship with your co
worker is not the smartest decision to make. Although, perhaps
the relationship will work out and you actually end up together
and have a wonderful life together, this isn’t always the case
and breaking up with a co worker can prove more challenging
than the usual break up.
Imagine yourself, freshly broken up from your partner and still
hurting. It’s very difficult to go out and enjoy the usual daily
activities because for one thing, you don’t feel your best and
inadvertently you don’t feel like you look your best. You don’t
want to be in places that will remind you of your partner and
you most definitely don’t want to bump into your partner when
not looking your best either. It’s all a very complicated chain
of events that you want to avoid following a break up and the
natural thing to do after a break up is to just concentrate on
work and live one day at time until one day eureka, you’re
whole and ready to rejoin the living again.
Unfortunately, you will not have this luxury if you break up
with a co worker. You will not have a reprieve from seeing him
as you will have to bear not only seeing him every single day
but also you will have to work closely with him as work
dictates. You cannot ask to be reassigned or risk letting your
work go because that would be totally unprofessional and no
broken heart is reason to stop the world and throw everything
away.
It’s also very difficult to get over someone you have to be in
close constant distance with. Sometimes, time and space is all
one needs and with breaking up with a co worker, that’s not
really possible.
What’s worse is that somewhere down the line, while you are
going through the process of healing, you will be privy to your
ex partner’s new love life and it will be enough to put you on a
tailspin back to remission.
Then there are also the pitying looks and words from your other
co workers. That isn’t half as bad as the gossip that will
ensure from your break up. It’s a very sticky situation and
there is just no end to the nightmarish possibilities that will
ensue from breaking up with a co worker.
Unfortunately there isn’t really anything you can do about it
but just hang on and let things naturally die down because as
with everything, this difficult time in your life will pass and
you’ll look back and find everything wasn’t as bad as you
imagined in retrospect.
Things to do though to prevent difficulty in breaking up with a
co worker, short of not dating them in the first place is to try
and be discreet about your relationship so that your business
isn’t everyone else’s property too. Also, prepare yourself for
the possibility that things don’t work out and you will
eventually have to break up. This may lessen the impact if it
actually does happen.
If you didn’t have the luxury of the above advice and now find
yourself broken and fresh from breaking up with a co worker,
and you feel like you just cannot handle the strain, relax and
be easy on yourself. If your productivity will suffer, it might
be good to take some time off from work and never mind the
gossip and what other people will think. Who knows perhaps this
is the time to rethink your job and may even be the beginning of
a jumpstart on your career.